Monday, January 4, 2010

Our Greatest Fear

This is one writing that captivated me in recent times.It is Our Greatest Fear By Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.We ask ourselves,

who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.Your playing small does not serve the world.There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,Our presence automatically liberates others.

Monday, July 21, 2008

Virtual Boundaries

Hey guys me back blogging after a long time. This time its abt the mind mapping and the abilities of our brain that we fail to harvest due to some unreal assumptions. It is abt how we fail to seek the real solution due to the phantoms built by unrealities. How we don’t ever think abt conquering the great Mt. Everest? . Rafting through the Amazon? . Sky diving? Or solving some of the unsolvable mysteries? . Wondered why the Bermuda triangle is triangular ? Have you ever questioned the Big Bang theory or why the value of pi is always 22/7=3.14 something? Why do we fail to do all these ? The answer is simple , its because these are not done by all commoners. Its either done by professionals or scientist or ppl who are exceptional … Exceptional ? did I mention it . How are these guys different from the commoners. Its simple they don’t want any particular results to which they work. They arrive at some solution that was not predetermined. Their mind doesn’t have the virtual boundary that we have . They believe that wat they dream can happen , we don’t.

Then what is this Virtual Boundaries all abt? It is abt the way we put a boundary for our thought process. We think wat is possible , we don’t want to think wat is not feasible. The real thing is that it is we who decide if it is feasible or not. We must make it possible. Let me bring out a small incident that made me realize how our mind is trained not to think beyond boundaries.

As a small kid I was always fascinated by the big , majestic elephants in temples. As I was passing one such elephant, I stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from the ropes they were tied to but for some reason, they did not.
I saw a trainer near by and asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. "Well," he said, "when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it's enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free." I was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn't, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?

One more such incident that I happened to read in some site. Its abt a 'great' mathematician who became great because he didn’t believe that he was not great. Here's a story about George Dantzig - the famed mathematician who's contributions to Operations Research and systems engineering have made him immortal.
As a college student, George studied very hard and often late into the night. So late, that he overslept one morning, arriving 20 minutes late for Prof. Neyman's class. He quickly copied the two maths problems on the board, assuming they were the homework assignment. It took him several days to work through the two problems, but finally he had a breakthrough and dropped the homework on Neyman's desk the next day.
Six weeks later, on a Sunday morning, George was awakened at 6 a.m . by his excited professor. Since George was late for class, he hadn't heard the professor announce that the two unsolvable equations on the board were mathematical mind-teasers that even Einstein hadn't been able to answer.
But George Dantzig, working without any thoughts of limitation, had solved not one, but two problems that had stumped mathematicians for thousands of years.
Simply put, George solved the problems because he didn't know he couldn't. You are not limited to the life you now live. It has been accepted by you as the best you can do at this moment. Any time you're ready to go beyond the limitations currently in your life, you're capable of doing that by choosing different thoughts. All you must do is figure out how you can do it, not whether or not you can. And once you have made your mind up to do it, it's amazing how your mind begins to figure out how.
A person is limited only by the thoughts that he/she chooses. Lets not limit ourselves. Enjoy a boundary free life.

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

10 Easy Ways to Make Yourself Absolutely Miserable

I think that becoming a happier person is not so much about changing external circumstances as it is about changing your thinking.
There are quite a few ways to make yourself miserable. Here are 10 of them that I believe are some of the most popular. I have used them time and time again. I still do from time to time I’d recommend decreasing these thought habits as much as possible. Ditching them all together might be hard. But over time you can cut down on them significantly.

1.Compare everything you do to the lives and accomplishments of other people.
The problem with comparing yourself to others is that there will always be someone with more than you So you get a car that is nicer than the ones your closest neighbours drive. And that feels awesome for a while. But then one day you see the young kid on the next block driving around in his new, cool and expensive sports car. And once again, you don’t feel so good anymore.
A more useful way of thinking is to compare yourself to yourself. Compare the Yesterday’s U to the Today’s U. Make a plan for how you can improve on those areas of your life and appreciate the progress you have made.

2. Go along with what everyone else tells you. And try to please everyone
You cannot live your life through the eyes of everyone else. If you do try to please everyone you may find that some people aren’t pleased anyway. So try to please yourself. This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t listen to others. What simply works is that you listen to everybody’s words and opinions , but the final decision is yours.

3.Live in a grave amount of negative thoughts.
What you allow into your mind will affect you. So be selective. First thing stay away from ppl with a negative attitude towards life. It’s not easy to stay optimistic when pessimism is the default mode in your world. Spend Time With Positive People. The worst thing for a negative frame of mind is to mope around feeling sorry for ourselves.

4.Never mix things up or try something new.
Always be happy and don’t try something new. This will most probably lead your life to the most dullest corner.
Remind yourself of the other times when you have tried something and how you most often don’t regret it at all. In fact, you probably had a pretty good time. Even if it hurts there is nothing like dirtying your hand to do something new.

5.Spend too much of your time in the past and/or the future
This is a sure killer. The thing is just that if you spend much time in the past or present then thoughts tend to spiral a bit out of control. You start to over think. You imagine future scenarios in an almost compulsive way. You come to conclusions even before problems arrive.
6.Focus on what you don’t want
Swami Vivekananda says “You become what you think”. So when you start thinking what you don’t want, it automatically gains on you. So think wat you want and end up chasing it rather than crying over wat you don’t want.

7.Spend your time looking for magic pills.
Reading a book on personal development won’t solve your problems. It’s kinda devious though because reading the book can make you feel like you are making progress. But without action there is little progress.
But this pleasant feeling of making progress can become addictive. It gives you an emotional high. So you read another book. And another. And you become a personal development junkie.
Always looking for that one thing that will change your life. But there are no real magic pills. Some books are certainly more helpful than others. Especially if they wind up in your hand at the right time. But it is no substitute for taking action. Someone might try to sell you something that they promise will bring big rewards with basically no action your part. That’s probably just a sales technique. The product itself may be good, great or useless. You never really know. You just have to try it out by taking action and see for yourself. That action of yours yields the results not the product. Remember tools are just “tools” ,its You who drives it.

8.Always be looking for and relying on external validation
This can be a huge one. External validation is basically that someone other than you validates you. They might tell you that you are smart, pretty, cool, successful etc. They tell you something that tells you that you are a person of value.
Now, this may sound all well and good. Getting compliments is wonderful. The problem is just that if you need validation from others then you let the outside world, other people, control how you feel.
You do that by validating yourself
You think about how awesome you are. You appreciate how far you have come and the positive things you have done. You appreciate your own value in the world. You set goals and you achieve those goals. This builds confidence in yourself and in your abilities.

9.Take all things too seriously
Being hard on yourself just seems to create a lot of negativity and problems within yourself. So takes things a little soft. This has its benefits .Look at complex problems in simple and jovial way ,you will probably end up with astonishing results rather than taking thins serious and toiling it through your mind.

10.Always stick to easier non-risky jobs.
Ah! What a pleasure to hear. Safe in the harbor ,bur are ships built for this. When u start to play things safe u tend to get softer gradually and end up really dull in any work. Choose to be proactive and ready –to-go. This will surely make you a winner.

According to me all these 10 ways will surely help you make your life a miserable one. Follow this and make life miserable or skip all this and be a winner , it all depends in what you take and how you take.